Them the mood changed and the arguments began. Slowly at first. A complaint from Beloved, an apology from Sethe. A reduction of pleasure at some special effort the older women made. Wasn’t it too cold to stay outside? Beloved gave a look that said, So what? Was it past bedtime, the light no good for sewing? Beloved didn’t move; said “Do it,” and Sethe complied. She took the best of everything-first. The best chair, the biggest piece, the prettiest place, the biggest ribbon for her hair, and the more she took, the more Sethe began to talk, explain, describe how much she suffered, been through, for her children, waving away flies in grape arbors, crawling on her knees to a lean-to. None of which made the impression it was supposed to. Beloved accused her of leaving her behind. Of not being nice to her, not smiling at her. She said they were the same, had the same face, how could she have left her? And Sethe cried saying she never did, or meant to-that she to get them out, away, that she had the milk all the time and the money oo for the stone but not enough. That her plan was always that they would all be together on the other side, forever. Beloved wasn’t interested.
pg. 283-284
It is said that the bond between a mother and her child is unbreakable. Sethe contains extreme motherhood characteristics, and takes the concept of protecting her children to the extreme, which is killing her children in order to protecting them from being enslaved. The relationship between Sethe and Beloved is different than a normal, healthy relationship between a mother and daughter. Beloved tortures her mother and makes her feel horrible for what she did, even though Sethe apologizes and tries to make up for killing Beloved. Through Denver point of view, it becomes clear that the relationship between Beloved and Sethe is unhealthy because Beloved the relationship is controlling and emotionally abusive.
This passage reveals that the relationship between Beloved and Sethe is unhealthy because their relationship is abusive. For instance, when Denver is describing the sudden change between Beloved and her mother she talks about how Beloved controlled her mother. She describes how Sethe would try to be a mother to Beloved, or Sethe would ask for Beloved to move and, “Beloved didn’t move; said “Do it,’ and Sethe complied.” In this passage Beloved has all the power in the relationship between her mother and her. Beloved has so much control over Sethe, that it makes the relationship unhealthy. This quote breaks all the stereotypes about the relationship between a mother and daughter. A mother is supposed to be the one who is tells the daughter what to do, not the other way around. By saying “Beloved didn’t move” even when her mother ask her shows how controlling the relationship is. If the relationship was healthy, the daughter would not command her mother to do things. This assists in proving the point that the relationship between Beloved and Sethe is unhealthy because it is controlling because Beloved is telling Sethe what to do, and not letting Sethe help Beloved or protect her.
This passage reveals the relationship between Beloved and Sethe is unhealthy because the relationship is emotionally abusive. For instance, Beloved constantly makes her mother feel guilty for killing her. Denver describes how Sethe would say how sorry and how much she worked to make sure nothing bad happened to her children. Denver describes how every time Beloved was unmoved by what her mother was saying to her. Denver describes how, “Beloved accused her of leaving her behind. Of not being nice to her, not smiling at her.” Beloved is making her mother feel horrible for what she did to her. For Sethe, the only way to protect her children from being slave. By Beloved accusing her mother “Of not being nice to her” and “not smiling at her” that makes her mother feel worse because it is not true. Sethe loved all of her children so much, and that is why she tried to kill them. This makes the relationship emotionally abusive because she is intentionally making the other person in the relationship feel horrible about themself. In addition, Beloved is not even willing to hear what her mother has to say and makes Sethe feel horrible for what she did. This supports the claim that the relationship between Beloved and Sethe is unhealthy because it is emotionally abusive because Beloved is making Sethe feel worse about killing Beloved. By not forgiving Sethe, Beloved emotionally torturing Sethe.
The relationship between Beloved and Sethe is harmful because the relationship is controlling and emotionally abusive. Beloved is Sethe's daughter, which is why it is shocking at how Beloved treat her mother. Even though Sethe apologize for killing her, she is being rude and hurtful to her mother which is not what a daughter should do to a mother.
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